OK, I’m really obsessing over this question given the economy. Here’s the deal. I work part time as a secretary for this ultra rich dude. I work part-time although he expects me to get the work done of a full time employee. So, if items don’t get completed in the time I have he calls me and makes my life horrible. I seriously bend over backwards for him, even when I’m at work I literally run to the bathroom because I’m busting my butt so much. In my heart I know I am doing a great job, but this person is just so unbearable. Also, my commute is 3 hours total when I go to work for him so it’s a lot on me, my husband and my car.
Now, here’s another side of things. My husband works a ton and is the breadwinner for us. The job I have is just extra and we wouldn’t be in duress if I left this job. Since, I’ve been working, my household organization and cooking has fallen through the floor and I’m exhausted which stresses him out…not good.
So, am I fool for leaving this job for the sake of stability for my marriage or should I take heed of what Suze Orman says and keep whatever job you have and be grateful and save?
Like I said, this extra money I make is really just used as a mini line of credit for my small online business which I haven’t been able to put too much time into as well.
Thanks for any input.
Keep it
maybe he is making difficult for you because he wants you to quit so he doesn’t have to pay unemployment.
I say keep it a little longer until you just can’t do it anymore, start saving just incase it gets bad.
Life is to short to put up with a borish, demanding boss. I say quit and
be kind to your self. Good Luck.
You should work. The only way to understand what a man goes through everyday ‘bringin’ home the bacon’ is for you to get out there and earn a buck yourself. I’m sure you’ll rationalize staying home as taking better care of him, when it’s really just doing what’s easy for you.
Keep the job and find a way to cope with it. Do what is realistic and stop bending over backwards for your boss. If you set unrealistic expectations for what should be done and he pushes you harder you’ll eventually break. Do the best you can in the time you have and remind yourself that it’s just a job. You’re investing to much of yourself into your work and aren’t benefiting from it. Take it back a notch and be realistic about what you can do. Take your breaks and work a regular schedule. If this isn’t acceptable for your boss then let him fire you. But I don’t think it’ll happen. He’s pushing you and you need to know when to say when.
quit, it’s not worth the stress.
If your husband has a steady income and your house (and nerves) is falling apart, quit. Life is too short bad economy or not. There are several reasons you listed that don’t make this a good return on your investment. You are working for someone who does not appreciate you and you are taking away time from your life (that you can’t get back) your family and your house.
Tell your boss adios and good luck.
I would say quit your job for the following reasons:
1. You don’t need the extra money as you stated plus you are probably paying half of what you earn to the government in taxes.
2. It’s affecting your health and well being and that’s more important than money.
3. It’s affecting your relationship with your husband and again that’s more important than money.
That’s my opinion.
Quit the job!
Do you feel safe with your husbands job? Meaning do you think with the economy going the way it is that he may lose his job? If you think your husbands job is safe, then why not get the heck out. Especially if you have to travel that far everyday.
That’s the problem with this country the rich has us all busting our butts doing twice the work for half the money . We have all turned into modern day slaves . I have no idea who suze Orman is but she must be some celebrity making big bucks for telling people to be slaves bow down and kiss masters rear. Why put yourself through it if there is no need
Wow girlfriend, why are you still there? Your boss is really taking advantage of you and your hard work. It sounds like you do an awesome job, put that energy into your online business, and reduce your stress level. The mileage being put on your car, the gas, the time, not to mention the BOSS, I think if you sit down and write out the pros and cons you will see that the cons out weigh the pros.
You are taking that kind of abuse for a part-time position? He’s flogging a part-timer because he refuses to pay a full-timer the wages and benefits they would require? Uh… time to fix that.
Look… you need to remind this boss of yours that you are PART-TIME and that if he wants certain things accomplished on a given day, he will have to set the priorities accordingly and spell it out to you.
I suggest a dry-wipe board where he can write his list of priorities and you can check off each one. He will have to re-do the list for each day.
You are entitled to a lunch time and bathroom breaks.
I would be out of there. If you don’t need the income and it’s making your home and marriage suffer, get out now. You can keep an eye open for another job or just take care of your house and family.
Suze Orman is a quack, I wouldn’t let her or anyone else determine what I did with my life.
You sound like me. I almost had to do a double take to make sure I didn’t post this, haha. Given this economy keep it as long as you can and try to find another job before you quit, it’s good for both of you to work… you need to be self-sufficient too.
If your online business Is doing well and it’s not going to put a strain on home finances. Stop bending over backward and tell him if he can’t treat you right then he had best fire you. and go for the unemployment. He sounds like a jerk who doesn’t know how to treat his employees.
Well , since there is really no benefit to your working and it seems you are not appreciatted ,,, I would say to your boss ,,,, TAKE THIS JOB AND SHOVE IT !!!!